Greek life tends to always have a bad reputation and now also tends to have a lot of sorority girls blogging about how it shouldn’t have a bad reputation. So with that said, I will keep this as unbiased as possible given that I am in a fraternity.
Are you really “Paying” for your friends?
Yes and no. The majority of the organizations have some sort of dues. Joining any organization on campus will help you gain the friends you will have throughout college and most likely for the rest of your life. Greek life has just been known to have more expensive dues. The majority of the dues for greek life goes to headquarters and the rest is usually put back to the chapter. It pays for things for brotherhood/sisterhood events, t-shirts, socials, intramurals, formals, and few other smaller things. Most guys were apart of a sports and created a brotherhood like bond and want that in college too but without playing on the varsity team in college. So yes you do have to pay to be apart of greek life which you also happen to meet lifelong friends but that can happen in any organization that also has dues.
Does Greek Life Party All the Time?
Again, yes and no. I say yes because there are chapters that throw parties every weekend or are seen drinking all the time. But if you had a group of college students that have nothing to do but drink, why wouldn’t they go to happy hour or have a party at their house? Again, most organizations and sports teams will rent houses together and will host parties and will drink just as much. I also say no because there are also chapters that pride themselves on the fact that they don’t party and would rather study and or play video games all the time. Which is not a bad thing. Whatever that chapter sees as a great day/night is on them. As they say, we are all “adults” and should be able to do what makes us happy and if that’s what is fun for them, why should it matter if the rest of the school is at a bar drinking till they forget where they are? The best advice I have gotten since I have been in college or for that matter been in greek life is, “Do you, man.” College is the perfect place to do just that and do whatever you want to do. If that means drinking all the time or not, college students have the right to decide to do what they think is fun.
Also side note, I hear all the time that people think that sororities throw parties. This is 100% wrong for national sororities. Most aren’t even allowed to have alcohol or guys in the house. Some local sororities can get around rules but still don’t have parties like the movies show.
Does Greek Life distract from school work?
Going to say it again and say yes and no. I say yes because there are times where a group of guys ask if you want to go do something like basketball, drink, or just go out to eat and you’ll go and do that when you should be studying. Also going to the library can be very tough to do. Every time I go to the library, it is usually with a friend or two and then we’ll see a few other people to sit with. Which ends up just being very hard to focus on what you went there to do. But at least you can tell your parents you were at the library all day. On the other hand, there is a very good chance that you know at least one person in your class because of greek life and that will help you out a lot for group projects, studying, and just having someone to talk to in class. You will also have older guys who have already taken the course or are majoring in the course you are in and can help you out if you need it. With there being a lot of events, meetings and other things to attend to being in greek life, time management is huge. Time management is something you either learn how to do or you don’t and you aren’t able to do both school and be involved.
What’s the difference between ‘Frat’ parties and random parties?
Fraternities have to be very careful about who is at their house during house parties. They all have a reputation to hold and someone not affiliated with the chapter can ruin the whole chapter. So why risk having random people at the house if it means they could single handedly bring down the whole chapter. The random people could break, steal, hurt themselves, be creepy to women, or drink too much then leave and hurt themselves outside then tell the cops they did it at the fraternity house. So because of that, the saying “who do you know here, bro?” saying started and is not what you think when people say anyone can get in. I did not rush my freshman year so I have been to random house parties and compared to fraternity parties, they are completely different. At random parties the only people you know there are the people you came with and maybe a few people you kinda know from class. With that said, there are over 50 people that you don’t know. For the most part, everyone knows everyone at fraternity parties so if anyone sees anything bad happening, it’ll most likely be stopped right away. Most chapters will also have sober monitors and can monitor the party and drive anyone who needs a ride to prevent anything happening to them on the way home and drunk driving. I am also over 21 years old and can confirm that the bars are very similar to random house parties except that the cops don’t shut it down at 11pm. So to answer the question, fraternity parties are more safe than to go to a random house party and are still more fun because of that.